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In 2007, I met Neil Gaiman during one of his book signing tours in Forbidden Planet, London. I managed to get there early enough that I was only about 30th in the queue, which was fortunate as it was a typical, drizzly British day.

I was a little nervous. I'd loved Gaiman's work for a long time, and had dithered over which books I wanted him to sign as the limit was two. Eventually, I settled on Stardust and Fragile Things - as it was the Fragile Things tour (if I remember correctly), and Stardust had a special place in my heart.

As soon as I stepped inside, I realised there was absolutely no reason to be nervous. There was this chilled out, completely at ease guy with a leather jacket and curly hair. He smiled at his fans. He actually talked to them, and was actually interested in what they had to say, not wanting to hurry them along. I took a (very bad) picture while he signed someone else's book.

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Then came my turn, and my nerves completely vanished. He asked for my name, and I spelled it for him as Richelle is quite unusual.

"That's a really cool name," he said, "Where did your parents get that from?" I explained it was my aunt's middle name. "What does it mean?" He asked. I told him I didnt know, but that it was the French feminine of Richard, after my great grandad.

"Ah, that makes sense, with the Ri..."

He signed both books, and drew me some lovely little doodles. ("I drew a cracked heart for you.")

(I don't have a good enough memory to remember this so clearly by the way, but I blogged about it immediately when I left the shop, and I've been able to refer back to it)

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What a lovely man, I thought.

A few months later, I went to a Terry Pratchett book signing during his tour for Making Money. Again in Forbidden Planet, there was a two book limit, and as I'd already promised a friend in the USA a signed copy of Making Money, that meant I had one book for myself. Then I remembered Good Omens, and kicked myself for not thinking of bringing it to the Gaiman tour a few months before. Oh well, I thought, there's always next time.

The first thing I saw of Terry was his hat. Then I noticed his laugh, which was very infectious. He signed Making Money, dedicated to my friend, and then he spied my copy of Good Omens. "Ah, this old thing." He grinned and signed away. I saw the dedication and laughed, and stepped away, feeling like he knew something I didn't.

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That's that, I thought, I'll wait for another Gaiman signing.

I had to wait a little while, as it turns out, until his signing for The Ocean at the End of the Lane in Ely cathedral in 2013. This time, I wasn't so lucky. My friend and I drove from London to Cambridge, and there was an accident on the way. By the time we got there, there were hundreds upon hundreds of people in front of us.

This signing also included a talk, and Gaiman spoke about his childhood, his experiences as an author and answered lots of questions. He also read a passage of his book, Fortunately, the Milk, and the audience were in hysterics. Seriously, no matter how old you are, you'll love that book.

We queued up to sign in the order we arrived, and we queued for a long time. The girl standing in front of my friend and I was obviously very excited, and she struck up conversation with us. She told us she was heavily dyslexic, but she'd read every single Neil Gaiman book. She enjoyed his work so much, that even though reading was difficult for her, she devoured his books and they made her love to read.

When it came to our turn, Neil had been signing for hours, it was late. He must have been tired. But he was still genial and pleasant to the people in front of us. The girl in front of us stepped up, and she was so overwhelmed, she couldn't speak properly as he signed her books. She was almost panicking, but she still managed to tell him about her dyslexia and despite it, her love of his books. Neil put down his pen, and spoke softly, kindly. "Would you like a hug?" She nodded, and laughed and cried and hugged him so tightly.

When it came to my turn, I said he was very kind, and he smiled. He quickly signed my copy of The Ocean at the End of the Lane, and then spied the next book I'd set on the table, open to the page where Terry had signed. His smile widened. "Ah," he said, dipping his pen in his ink, "I almost never get to finish this joke any more, as Terry no longer does signings."

He drew an asterisk next to where Terry had signed, drew an arrow to the bottom, and then finished the joke.

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@neil-gaiman, thank you. Thank you for bringing my favourite ever book to the screen, and thank you for dedicating it to Terry.

neil-gaiman

You are so welcome. It makes me sad to think there won’t be any new books signed by both of us.

ladyyatexel

So I briefly visited my grandmother’s house today.  For those of you on that train, this is Edgar’s house in SWAN.  So I took some photos, but it is A Hot Mess because we are in the process of just tearing stuff apart and I’m considering waiting until more is cleared out both so that the view is better and so I’m not showing my grandmother in any kind of bad light, even if the mess is not her fault by any means.  My grandmother is not dead, but is in a care facility and hasn’t been in her home for two years and the funds from the sale of her house and other antiques will be helping to pay for her care.  


I went solely looking for a spoon with Mickey Mouse on it that I had used when I stayed there on the weekends when I was around six years old.  (I had remembered it wrong and it was Minnie Mouse?  My memory is still clearly seeing Mickey despite being confronted with Minnie, so maybe there was a set, but whatever, I got the spoon.)  

But I also asked what would happen to her photo albums, and no one knew or really wanted them and, dammit, I wanted them.  I kind of wanted to digitize them if nothing else.  I feel like a lot of this stuff was hidden from me as a kid for some reason and I was kind of eager to just grab everything and see these people.  My first acquisition was a photo of a lady named Tressie from 1911 that was framed by itself and just chilling on a desk, and honestly, this is the first time I’ve seen someone from that long ago I knew (from subsequent digging in photos) was even tangentially related to me.   I think she’s like, my grandmother’s aunt at the very closest, but it is wild to look at her face and her old dress and think, ‘I share a thread with this person.’  

My grandfather was adopted, so a lot before him just stops.  We have limited info about his birth father, apparently, but before my grandfather died, he went a little wild for genealogy and such, so I think I would like to have whatever work he did.  

But I have my grandmother’s wedding photo and dozens of people who I then have obituaries on in the same album.  I’ll have to show you guys a picture of my grandmother from when she was about my age - we have the same taste in glasses.  


I also accidentally picked up my dad’s baby book because it was photo album shaped and the cover was covered in aluminum foil (?????) and am now in a very uncomfortable position of seeing all this cutesy kind of kid stuff that I know is all about a person who grew up to treat me very badly.   It also includes one of his baby teeth.  

So there’s that.

iwilltrytobereasonable animate-mush
vampireapologist

Thinkin about how as kids parents told us to clean our rooms without having ever shown us how to themselves, taught us any organizational skills, spatial management, or any other knowledge necessary to know how to efficiently tackle a mess without getting overwhelmed and then got exasperated when we as ten year olds didn’t just……figure it out

vampireapologist

This is not a dunk on my parents for the record. I had wonderful parents growing up and still have an amazing mom. I think this is just one of those smaller and common things of parenthood that I think addressing would be monumental in reducing a very common household stressor. If parents led their children in cleanups and helped them reason out plans to manage their time and stuff, especially neurodivergent kids, the entire household would be a lot more calm, streamlined, and overall happy I think!!!

tractorgoth

I’ve got one 7 year old perfectionist (possible ADHD) and one sweet 5 year old hurricane (DEFINITE ADHD) and me (also brain full of cats, despises prolonged supervisory things). Here’s some things I’ve learned specific to that that are also generally good for teaching kids to clean. (Or yourself.)

1. If you want a kid to clean, first you have to teach them to even see mess. They don’t! But it does stress them out.

“Okay, let’s look for something out of its place. If it’s on the floor, it’s out of place. If it’s on your bed and it’s not a blanket, it’s out of place.”

2. Go by category, it’s easier to find stuff to put away if your search engine has a specific target, and it’s more satisfying and efficient to put away a big chunk of mess at once.

“Got something? Ok, are there other things like it? Let’s find all the BOOKS. I will HELP YOU.”

3. Important!! Don’t walk away from a kid with focus issues expecting them to instantly learn a task and finish it! You are setting them up to fail! The first several times you need to be there for the whole process and demonstrate by helping. That motivates them. They feel less panic that you’ll bail and they’ll be stuck alone not knowing what to do next. Narrate what you’re doing, too. Help and supervise less as they seem to need you less.

“I’ll get the books on the floor, can you help me get the ones under your bed? I can’t fit!”

4. In my experience most kids, but especially kids with ADHD would walk to the fucking moon to help you, they just need a clear plan, keep the criticism light, short, and to the point, and ffs PRAISE THEM when they do things right, cause we’ve all (I hope) seen the statistics on how much more negative interaction they get compared to other kids (and rejection sensitive dysphoria is a motherfucker). But more than praise you need to show them how what they did was good for THEM. Do nooooooooot take this opportunity for an ‘I told you so’ or a ‘finally’ or you will suck out all their accomplishment.

“Hey, great job, you found that horse you were missing because you cleaned! And your room looks so nice! It’s really comfortable to play in now, and you did that.”

5. Emphasize it does not have to be perfect or complete to be worth doing. I don’t want to will my kids my paralysis of inaction because I can’t start part of something unless I can do all of it.

“We don’t have time to do the whole room, but let’s pick up the legos before bed so you don’t hurt your feet. And then it’ll already be done tomorrow!”

Other small but important things: make sure everyone is fed and not cranky when you start, including you. Do what YOU need to be in the right patient headspace for this. Put on music. Get coffee. Take breaks! Take dance breaks, tickle breaks, whatever. Make em short, set a timer, keep it consistent. Stop completely if they’re getting overwhelmed or stressed and be prepared to finish another day. They may complain and flop around a lot the first few times. Stay tooth grindingly positive and keep at it, it WILL get better. If you mess up, start again. It’s ok. It’s never too late.

arisanobenkyo

Being taught to see mess, and systematically taught how to clean in a way oriented toward showing me what cleaning does for me, would make me a much better person now, because i still struggle to see mess. Like I won’t see it till my rooms a train wreck, and then I might not think about it till the weekend or something

arisanobenkyo

@serendipitous-assembly I needed this post so much like

I hope I can find resources that make me be able to relearn it

imfemalewarrior

For followers with kids! They have to learn somewhere and this could help you teach them in a positive way! 

-FemaleWarrior, She/They 

fierceawakening

Oh my god. I thought I was the only one whose response to “clean your room” was “okay, how do I do that? I know what it looks like now and I know what it’s supposed to look like later, but ??? what do”

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galleytrot

Someone asked me what I think Aziraphale’s real form would look like so here’s a kinda quick drawing. He’d probably be unnecessarily scary and badass despite himself.

He’s a principality in canon and I’ve seen a lot of people draw him as a ophanim (the one that looks like wheels and eyes), but i went with a cherubim, a more animalistic angel with four faces.

crowley would look like this

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