The constant attempted shaming and silencing of survivors on this hellsite? that makes me deeply uncomfortable.
Every time someone writes “you can’t write about that even if you’re a survivor and if you do you have to keep it to yourself”, what I read is the implied “you can’t write about your own trauma with the comforting distance of putting it on fictional characters, and if you do you’re not allowed to look for validation from other people.”
I read “you can’t share your story because it makes me uncomfortable to see it”.
I read “you should just be ashamed of the bad things that happened to you”.
I read “you should just suffer in silence”.
People act like not talking about abuse can… somehow stop it? And that’s not how it works. Shaming survivors only makes it easier for abusers to manipulate their victims. Silence protects abusers from discovery. It harms survivors by not letting them have the catharsis of understanding, and keeping them from support.
And I don’t feel like it’s anyone’s place to tell a survivor they have to out themselves to share, either.
So yeah. It’s not the only reason I’m anti-censorship, by a long shot, but there’s one reason I’m very much not on the side of “bad things can’t ever be written”- or on the side of shaming people who do write “bad things”, no matter what apparent reasons they have.