No, said Aziraphale, it's ineffable.

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why do photos of empty hospitals scare me so much……… wild

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OMG I ACTUALLY HAVE AN ANSWER!!! Psychology student part of tumblr, here! There’s a phenomenon in the brain, although I can’t remember the world, where your brain doesn’t understand emptiness in a space you’ve becomes used to seeing people in, and, your survival brain, trying to make up for it, makes you see or feel things that aren’t there, this is common with empty stores that are usually bustling, train stations, abandoned buildings, etc. The reason you become unsettled or scared is because the part of your brain responsible for survival is like: “wait. Everyone’s gone. Does this mean danger? Should I leave, too?” It’s a survival thing, apparently!

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Being in school after hours invokes a sense of constant threat and unstoppable conquest at the same time

Anonymous asked:

what are some questions that a person should be prepared to answer when coming out to their friends/family as trans?

Assume that everyone asking these questions in this post has your best interest in heart until proven otherwise.

The number one question I got from family was “Are you sure?”

Now, the answer is probably yes, and you certainly don’t have to answer beyond that if you don’t feel comfortable doing so. But keep in mind, if they’re older than you and not on tumblr, they may 1. not fully understand what transgender means, and 2. if they do, think it sounds too extreme for their darling child.

1 can be dealt with by asking “what’s your understanding of what I’ve said so far (in coming out)?” for my mom that was that she thought I wanted to go into drag, and since I’d never performed anything ever or showed interest in costuming/makeup, “are you sure” became a totally reasonable question.

For 2, basically they want to see that going through what they perceive is going to be social hell and possibly otherwise unnecessary medical interventions is going to be “worth it.”

I’d recommend getting some anecdotes about situations in your life where dysphoria played in, and was relieved by something like a binder or wearing another gender’s clothes. Similarly, if they’ve seen you struggle with something like depression, anxiety, social isolation or the like that’s linked to your transness, help make that connection for them (Note, If they haven’t see you struggle with mental health issues, coming out as mentally ill at the same time as you come out as trans will split the focus of the conversation and probably not help you.). Point out that coming out and pursuing whatever form of transition you’re thinking of will help that by solving the root problem. I talked about a huge sense of relief I felt putting on a binder for the first time.

Another question is “When are you going to transition/have the surgery?”

This again is usually from a misconception that trans people go into a hospital, have one big surgery, and emerge fully formed a week later, instead of transition being a years-long process that involves as many or few steps as necessary. It might also be a sort of challenge- “if you were really trans you’d know what you want transition-wise right now.” In which case maybe go back to the first question. Either way, like the first question, try to figure out where someone’s understanding is before explaining that coming out is just a first public step, and that transition looks different for everyone.

If it helps, translate this into “what do you expect from me?”- Transition requires everyone around you to change some behavior, and even if they don’t fully understand that, they’re looking for something concrete as to where they’re needed/what’s expected of them. Tell them name and pronouns are fine for now. If you need financial support for clothing/binders/medical care, that can either be brought in now or saved for later, depending on how the conversation is going. Overall, try to keep the conversation to one subject- you coming out.

“How do I deal with this at work/in public?”

Once everyone’s fully on board with this, they’re going to run into someone at work that asks about their trans daughter or son’s previous gender. It’s probably going to catch them by surprise- not many cis people necessarily think about the repercussions having a trans child might have for them. Their parental fitness may be judged by their family/friends/coworkers for “letting” you transition. Their job or their safety at that job might be threatened or perceived to be threatened. My mom got quite the nasty phone call from her brother, and my dad agonized about whether or not he should tell his boss/coworkers that I was trans at a then-conservative company.

Be prepared to suck it up and say “whatever is safest for you”. Having that open conversation, where they don’t feel like they’re going to have to choose between their safety and yours, and where everyone understands that you’re going to be okay if they need to refer to you as your birth name in front of a coworker or specific family member, will really go a long way, especially at the beginning.

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Vanity Fair article about the group wanting to cancel the Good Omens on Netflix.

Other “blasphemous” things the group has bravely battled include the movie Office Christmas Party, some Jesus bath mats and toilet covers, the AMC show Preacher,and, of course, the game Cards Against Humanity. Hopefully its inevitable next crusade at least picks the correct target.

And also CNN article :D.

See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

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