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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

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the thing with trauma is that it impacts you much later. time doesn’t heal the wound, it only covers it up with dysfunctional coping mechanisms, and then one day you are forced to deal with that. it’s scary because you think, why am i not over this yet? it’s been so many years, why am i struggling now? and i wanna tell you that this experience is one that every traumatized person goes through, and it doesn’t make you a failure, it makes you a normal human being. your mind protects you from the impact as long as it can, but it can’t do that forever, because it’s such an enormous task. nobody can go through trauma and come out unscathed. so don’t beat yourself up about being injured. back then you could only cover these wounds up quickly and now they are infected. that isn’t your fault, but it’s important you tend to them now. and yes, it will take time to heal, but you are not alone in that. there are so many people going through those struggles. you are never the only one, you are never a disappointment. you are normal in the way you deal with trauma. take your time and treat yourself kindly.

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Sound advice, though overlooking something about this character response to problems which has been used to excellent effect by Shakespeare, Dickens, Tolkien… The list is huge.

Make it clear though not flashing-neon obvious - the character mustn’t know, the reader must - that the problem walked away from will return either bigger, in a different form, or both.

Don’t spoil the Big Reveal with too much detail, but confirm by hints and implications that the problem will be far worse BECAUSE it was walked away from.

Between walk-away and return, paint the character into a corner where they wouldn’t have been had they not walked away.

Show them as sure they did the right thing, supported in their action by all (but one or two?) of their friends, convinced that everything is going to be all right.

Then unleash the Big Reveal in whatever way works best for the plot, whether as an unstoppable trickle, a trickle becoming a torrent, or an everything-at-once destructive damburst. (And yes, it can be like an airborne water-bomber payload hitting a fragile old building if you prefer that comparison…) :-P

Letting it build so the character can realise the full extent of their folly is effective, but so’s dropping an anvil on them from the penthouse balcony.

Do this properly, and readers will not be walking anywhere… :-)

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