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Stop writing men as if modern Western toxic masculinity were the default throughout time and space.

Your medieval knights can share a pallet at night because it’s cold in this castle and they’re demonstrating their respect and affection for each other by sharing physical proximity.

In the far future, your dude can be a scientist adventurer robot captain, but he can also make food for people to demonstrate his affection and dance to show off his happiness.

Many cultures alive today expect the average man to be good with children, to be able to diaper a baby, to know how to assist in childbirth. Your men don’t have to go, “Oh god, an infant, I’ve never touched one of those before.”

Before modern Europe, there was nothing unmanly about loving colour, fashion, art, and decoration. Flowers weren’t always emasculating. Emotions weren’t always considered signs of weakness. Men got to want and have warm, close, affectionate friendships with other men.

In many ways, Western toxic masculinity of the last few centuries has been the exception, not the rule.

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All right. I have to chime in here and say… EVERY EXAMPLE IN THIS POST IS CANONICAL BEN SISKO.

Sharing a bed because it’s cold: “Past Tense”. We don’t see them do it, but when Ben returns to Julian in the cellar well with the plate of scrambled eggs (see also: feeding people to show affection), there is very clearly one blanket in the place they were sleeping. The night before, Ben spends most of the incredible scene discussing Federation ideals blowing on his hands: it was bitterly cold. Our heroes shared that blanket like the Federation idealists they are, and that is simply a Trek Fact.

Making food for people to demonstrate his affection: too many examples to list, but they include “The Nagus”, “Equilibrium”, “Blaze of Glory”, “In the Cards”, “Statistical Probabilities”, et cetera, et cetera. This is one of Ben’s predominant acts of love, and he does it all the time. For his family, for his friends, for his crew.

Dancing because he’s happy: often also while cooking, in fact.

Ben and the babies! Oh, there are not words enough to express how much I love this! “Explorers”, talking about how passionately he decorated his son’s nursery. “Heart of Stone”, instantly radiant with joy talking about Ensign Vilix’pran: “You mean he’s pregnant! 😍”. “The Abandoned”: absolutely absorbed in the eyes of the Jem’Hadar baby, and subsequently nostalgic for the Baby Jake of years gone by. “Children of Time”, barely holding up his end of a conversation about the Defiant’s plight because he’s cuddling his multiple-great grandbaby. Smiling down at Kirayoshi in the pit in “Business as Usual”. In “The Begotten”, he even cooes over a baby Changeling, who looks like a cup of goo!

And the ways in which he shows affection for other men — Jake, Miles, Julian, Odo, Worf, Curzon, on goes the list — really ARE too numerous to even attempt to list. All of this while still being a skilled captain, a brilliant tactician, a soldier, and soforth.

Benjamin Sisko is the masculine icon the world needs.

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Originally posted by positivetrekconfessions

Can confirm, he is the best captain ❤️

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