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i was looking at old photos and i wanted to show you how our story went, a little

bronwyn and i met at age 12 but i dont have any photos from then, really, but this is from grade 9 science class when we were being goofs and i was 13

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this is from our first ever sleepover, we couldn’t stop laughing and we were sleeping on a mattress on the floor and we went to boston pizza and got plastic rings that we both still have (bronwyn kept hers on a necklace after that)

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i went to bronwyn’s cottage for the first time in the summer after grade 9

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we had our first kiss in grade 10 when i was 14 and were in a weird kind of dating limbo period

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then i moved to the states and turned 15 and told bronwyn i was in love with her and we visited every chance we could and she sent me flowers and packages

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then i went to junior prom with her and bronwyn cut her hair

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then we had the most beautiful summer where i spent 5 weeks at her cottage and i cut my hair

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then i went back to miami for 12th grade and turned 16 and bronwyn was 17 and we went to senior prom together

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then i moved back to canada for university when i was turning 17 and we finally lived in the same place again and we loved each other so much and got breakfast together every day

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then after a beautiful summer we started living together when i was 18 and bronwyn was 19  and we went to bahrain together and bronwyn dyed her hair brown and now i get to see her every morning and every night and we adventure in our city and have a coffee shop and love each other more than i could have thought. there were periods of scary intense darkness but we love each other so much and i’ve never been happier. i’ve known bronwyn since i was 12 and now i’m almost 19 and i love her more and more.

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i’m never on here anymore, but i wanted to share that almost a month ago bronwyn and i got engaged!! under a beautiful tree on a perfect day and for the rest of my life i get to pursue her and care for her and make her laugh. i’ve said this so many times but now more than ever: if this is all i get, it’s so much more than i could have hoped for.

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hopeful-weirdo

This makes me so happy

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mamoru

I am an old sage…listen closely to my wisdom before my soul withers away…

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Teach us, o wise one

mamoru

you are not an anime character. your actions impact others and do not only exist in theory. nobody is required to stick around for your tragic backstory or to learn the reasons behind your actions. if you treat people like garbage, they are allowed to think of you as a jerk and nothing more. nobody is obligated to analyze you or think twice when you hurt them. similarly, you are not required to stick around to listen to other people’s reasons for treating you like trash. you can call them a jerk, cut them out of your life, and call it a day.

theunitofcaring

Anonymous asked:

Your advice to anon struggling with college was really good, it's advice I wish I could have had back when I was struggling in college. But why did you automatically jump from "struggling" to "ADHD"? Did you have previous knowledge of anon, or did you assume that anyone struggling in college will have ADHD, or did you tell anon to get a fake ADHD diagnosis to access accommodation?

I think it’s a good idea to get evaluated for ADHD if you’re struggling in college, because it’s a common cause of struggling in college. 

I don’t believe in ADHD as, like, a concrete category like the flu, where there’s an objective fact of the matter about whether your symptoms are caused by the flu. For the flu, there’s a specific cause. For ADHD, it’s more about your actual ability to do stuff in a bunch of categories. People vary in conscientiousness, working memory, distractibility, ease of reaching a flow state, hyperactivity/irritability, etc., etc., and whether someone is low enough on those that it negatively affects their life is going to depend on other traits of theirs (for example, whether they are also depressed) and on what the society around them expects them to keep on top of. 

We use “ADHD” to refer to people who are past a threshold where deficiencies in those areas is making it hard for them to live their lives, but that threshold depends on a ton of contingent facts about the situation. I think most of the differences in how doctors diagnose ADHD isn’t some doctors giving a ‘fake’ diagnosis, it’s doctors varying in how they perceive the tradeoffs of diagnosing vs failing to diagnose.

The frustrating thing is that we are, as a society, terrified of giving accommodations to someone who doesn’t Really Have ADHD, so we make people jump through lots of hoops to prove they really have ADHD, and the worse their executive dysfunction the worse they will be at these hoops, so most people who have the most severe problems are unable to access any supports – all because we’re committed to protecting the boundaries of this category which is really arbitrary. Meanwhile, people who are wealthy and good at navigating bureaucracies will always successfully secure a diagnosis. 

Given all that, I think that accommodations should basically be available in all non-zero-sum situations (and there is no good reason for most college coursework to be a zero-sum situation) to anyone who is able to learn and succeed better with access to the accommodations. I definitely recommend seeking an evaluation to college students who are struggling. You might be a person such that an ADHD diagnosis and ADHD treatment improves your ability to get stuff done, and that’s the only definition of ADHD I’ve found useful. 

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