burlbread
Can’t even enjoy my coffee without the beasts wrestling
psqqa
poor long man jenkins. he’s so full of poison but the bugs are eating him anyway.
theadhdadult
The next time your internal monologue starts messing with you I want you to invite your oppositional defiance disorder to the party.
I want you to respond like you would if a figure of authority said that exact same thing.
Intrusive thoughts: You’re terrible at this, you should probably just give up.
My ODD: YOU AREN’T THE BOSS OF ME! GTFO OF MY BRAIN, I AM FUCKING GLORIOUS.
wildshadowtamer
adhd has like, a 60% to 80% comorbidity rate and has a lot of certain things with actual names (Alexithymia, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, etc) that most of us dont realise have names, so not only do we get ADHD, we get like a 6 for 1 deal.
like yeah i have ADHD, but i got 5 other things from it as well
void-galaxy-shenanigans
Someone on TikTok (fellow ADHDer): So the ADHD brain tends to be very rebellious.
Me: Makes sense.
Them: In order to combat this, it might help to try and force yourself to do the opposite of what you actually want to do.
Me: ¿What?
Them: If you need to do homework, FORCE yourself to sit on the couch and scroll TikTok.
Them: Tell yourself “this is what I’m SUPPOSED to be doing right now.”
Them: Your brain will get disengaged and bored and seek something new, so it’ll break hyperfocus.
Them: This gives you the ability to go do something else.
Them: So if you’re trying to sleep, focus your attention on something else - force yourself to scroll TikTok or chat with people instead.
Them: It doesn’t help everyone, but it works for some of us, some of the time.
Me: ….Alright, fine, I’ll give it a shot.
Me: *focuses my attention on writing (aloud to self)*
Me: *tells self “I don’t need sleep; I have 4 hours till I need to get up for work, that’s plenty of time to write stories.”*
My brain, which frequently stays awake to write stories & won’t let me sleep: [insert penguin meme]
Brain: Well, now ¡I am not doing it! 🙅♂️
Brain: *knocks me to sleep because it doesn’t wanna be /forced/ to write*
Me: …..Well. This might actually work for me.
((note we’d been running about 3 hours sleep a night for days already because brain fixated on writing when we said “I need sleep now”))
—
If this will help anyone else, have it. It might help you do things you actually want to do.
Apparently the ADHD brain’s rebellion streak isn’t just against others. It’s also against itself.
I don’t know if this helps other neurodivergence or maybe mental illness but if you want to try ¡you’re welcome to! If your brain is also rebellious, this might help you out, ADHD or not.
~Nico (he/they), Aiden (he/him), & Javi (he/him)
lizziedoesvetpath
ley-med
I realize including the fact that long man jenkins is my Hoya carnosa houseplant may have been an important detail
lizziedoesvetpath
mental-health-in-academia
One of the best and most helpful things anyone ever said to me was: Don’t advertise your mistakes.
You will often notice when you’ve made an error, or when there’s something you could have done better, or etc, and sometimes other people will notice too. But often, they won’t. So don’t point it out.
It’s really a sign of a lack of self confidence – you think that if you point out the error first, it will save someone else from having to point it out for you. That by being self-depreciating, no one else will feel obliged to point out your flaws.
But here’s the thing. People don’t notice jack shit, most of the time. Sure, yeah, sometimes you’ll fuck up and people will notice and mention it, and thats fine, but 95% of your errors will go unnoticed. Unless you choose to point them out, in which case, you ensure that 100% of your errors get noticed.
The above sentence was said to me during a dance rehearsal. I’m not a pro dancer by any stretch of the imagination – this was a fun little between-friends dance that we were going to perform at a medium sized function full of people we knew. Half the people in the group did have dance experience, which made me - a non-dancer - feel self concious. So every time I messed up the steps, I would laugh at myself or made an “agh” sound or be verbally frustrated with myself that I was struggling to get that move, or whatever. Which drew peoples attention to the fact that I’d made an error.
There were like 10 of us doing this dance; me missing one step went largely unnoticed in the scheme of things, because with ten of us, anyone watching the dance had so much to look at that the likelihood of them seeing me misstep was extremely low. Unless I made a big deal about it, which would draw their attention to me, and ensure that they were made aware.
I used to point out my mistakes all the time. Not just with the dance, but across the board in general life, too. “Agh, whoops,” or handing over a completed project like “I know I could have done [thing] better, but hopefully the rest is ok,” or whatever. People were often frustrated with me, and I feel, in hindsight, that they were frustrated with me because in their eyes, with me constantly highlighting my own errors, they knew I could do better but instead here I was, giving them a shoddy, half-assed, error-filled effort. By me pointing out my every mistake, they were aware of how many I was making, and they were frustrated by my seemingly endless errors.
Then I got told to “stop advertising your mistakes,” and it was a bit of a revelation moment for me. I made a concious effort that day to minimise my reaction to my own mistakes – for the rest of the rehearsal and into the final performance – and you know what happened??
After the performance, countless people said some iteration of the phrase, “I didn’t know you could dance!!”
They thought I was a dancer. That I’d been dancing for years. They hadn’t noticed any of my missteps.
I messed up multiple times during the final performance. If I watch the recording and focus on me, I can see my missed steps, the time I span clockwise on the spot instead of anticlockwise, the time I was slightly out of alignment with the other dancers, etc. But if I watch the dance as a whole, watching all 10 dancers instead of just me….. I dont notice the mistakes I made. They blend in. Theres too much other stuff going on for anyone to notice the one dancer who spun on the spot in the opposite direction to everyone else.
And everyone thought i was brilliant. All I noticed, while dancing, were my mistakes, but no one else saw them, and everyone who saw the dance was super impressed with it and with me. That would not have been the case had I reacted to every one of my errors as I’d made them.
So I took that concept and applied it to the rest of my life. And you know what???? People were less frustrated with me. Because they weren’t noticing my minor errors, and I wasn’t pointing them out any more, so from their perspective, it looked like my output had improved. It looked like I was making “less errors.” I wasn’t, its just that before, I was pointing every one of them out, and now, I was letting people notice them on their own. And they didnt notice them.
You are always going to be hyperaware of yourself and your own mistakes, but other people are way too distracted by their own crap and have too much other stuff drawing their attention to notice your every misstep. So stop pointing your mistakes out. Stop being your own worst critic. Everyone fucks up now and then, its fine. You fix the error if you can, and you move on. You dont have to pre-empt someone else pointing out your mistakes, because its extremely likely that they wont notice your errors. Unless you point them out.
So stop advertising your mistakes, people.
lizziedoesvetpath
vetisntdead
Med students literally only want one thing and it’s fucking disgusting:
cosmictuesdays
thoseotherstickyvalentines
angel and spike being petty about each other is so funny actually because angel’s like (drops voice 20 octaves) spike is a killer. there’s no shred of decency within him, and you have to understand that. everything he does, he does with malicious laughter. he brings death in his wake with a song in his heart and he skips down the street like the lives he has taken are as light as a feather on his conscience, and he (goes on for 20 minutes)
and then meanwhile spike is just like. angel is an insufferably whiny prick. also he’s ugly and it’s important that everybody knows i’m prettier
#spike: ANGELS DULL AS A TABLE LAMP
terrypratchettappreciation
i-just-want-to-destroy
The storm was really giving it everything it had. This was its big chance. It had spent years hanging around the provinces, putting in some useful work as a squall, building up experience, making contacts, occasionally leaping out on unsuspecting shepherds or blasting quite small oak trees. Now an opening in the weather had given it an opportunity to strut its hour, and it was building up its role in the hope of being spotted by one of the big climates.
It was a good storm. There was quite effective projection and passion there, and critics agreed that if it would only learn to control its thunder it would be, in years to come, a storm to watch.
Wyrd Sisters, Terry Pratchett
arcticflakes
