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Yesterday and today are the 10 year anniversary of a really bad thing happening to me and it doesn’t feel possible it has been that long.
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Happy Halloween from the beautiful Onyx, my cherished and beloved bat cat, who was compensated for their 3 minutes of suffering with an equal number of tuna treats.
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Somewhere along the way one of the components of my hair Extravaganza fell off otherwise I wouldn’t be sharing the photo I took in a restaurant bathroom haha
That aside here are several layers worth of the stuff I wore because it’s Halloween. It’s just what I normally wear - these are all clothes I already own - but turned up a little haha
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spookypuke
3D Printed “Iden’s Inferno Heel” by Moritz Iden from their upcoming graduate collection.
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theladyem
This is wonderful.
For people who can’t see the image for some reason:
It’s a “Dear Abby” column, published in 1995. The letter writer, “Not Looking for a Girlfriend in New Jersey,” identifies as a 53 year old male virgin with no interest in either women or men, despite coworkers having assumptions that his lack of a family means he must be gay.
This man expresses no concern about his situation (other than the presumed exhaustion at being continually misidentified), and suggests he was writing simply so other people could see that “a man who had no interest in sex” exists.
Abby blows it out of the ballpark with her response:
People who have no sexual feelings are called “asexual.” Since it doesn’t appear to bother you, it should present no problem. You are accountable to no one except yourself [emphasis mine].
Here we have the bastion of middle American, the “nice White lady with all the answers”, normalizing this man’s experience and literally telling him to ignore the haters. Pre Millennium. She even calmly supplies this man with the language to identify himself, since he seems not to have encountered it before; that must have been so empowering for him, to have a word for his experience and identity, and to hear that others shared it.
Everyone, you are valid, and your identity is accountable to no one except yourself.
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dollsahoy
Outfit complete! Meet my avatar. The Idea has been rattling around for years. It took me the entire weekend to complete her clothing. For me, drafting patterns is drawing general shapes and hoping they come together. As a first draft of this outfit, I'm pretty pleased.
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Just spent two hours in debilitating pain around my ribs. Trying to breathe through the rest of it.
Looking at distracting fun things to help relax it. This has been happening every night for a week or two now but it’s always been fixable with just deep breathing. Tonight was next level.
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arcticflakes
