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thought i had while driving: the cardassians we see in TNG are all incredibly lean/lanky. gul “considers himself real hot shit” dukat is similarly proportioned. garak isn’t - he’s pretty solidly built for a cardassian we see onscreen

you know who else is almost upsettingly lanky? julian bashir, who is 2/3s leg. please imagine julian and garak as cardassia’s most confusing power couple. here’s this human who’s proportioned like the most perfect symbol of cardassian masculinity, married to a stout older man who is shorter than him. garak finds this hilarious. julian has no idea why particularly willowy cardassians keep staring at him balefully. to the average cardassian eye theyre the cardassian equivalent of one of those sitcom couples where one partner is super hot and the other one is just Aggressively Average and garak never stops being smug about it

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i think one of the funniest things in murderbot was its repeated ‘even if i’m panicking inside, i am flat and expressionless outside all the time heartless robot facade’

but then it doesn’t have its armor and face shield in artificial condition and it has to interact with humans for that security consultant job and is able to watch its own expressions from its drones and

“Oh. I guess I’m only good at controlling my expression when I’m not feeling anything.”

and there were a few other times where “oh my face must have done Something because the humans reacted” i think murderbot is actually terrible at keeping a neutral face (especially now that it’s not living under corporaterim and is able to more safely Feel Things now)

poker face who, we wear face shields like secunits

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Anonymous asked:

Hi Kat! TW SH Drug Abuse

Im a stupid bi male whose been in few relationships. Loooonggg story short, a person who I had a relationship with has came back into my life after two years apart and no communication. Its going really well.

When we broke up, I didnt fight. I was so madly in love and it came out of nowhere. Ive never argued in a relationship and didnt see how forcing someone to stay was going to help anyone.

She said she fell out of love with me (I would later learn (like as in two weeks ago) that she experienced a “split” with her companion person (me) as she discovered that she has borderline pd and schizoaffective).

A really stupid thing I did was try and fill a “my ex” shaped hole with a “her friend” shaped peg. Whatever ‘defense’ I can conjure up only makes me look worse. She and her had bad relations and were constantly saying bad things about each other. She had also hooked up with one of my exes (same girl) exes (confused yet?).

It was a thing that sort of just happened organically. We saw each other at a party and hit it off. We shared a lot of similar interests and a month into dating she professed her love for me (red flag). I knew I didnt feel the same way, but out of guilt from hurting my ex, I tried to make it work (it didnt!).

So over the summer my ex (the first one who I was head over heels for) sends me a message and we started talking again. We met in person and I told her everything about my relationship with her friend (only saying brutal truths which she wanted to hear). In the two years we hadnt talked, she took a gap year, developed a coke habit, and attempted to end her life five separate times.

After a month of talking over the summer, and getting texts very infrequently from her, I decided I couldnt keep talking to her. I defend the right to preserve my sanity. She lives four hours away from me, is actively suicidal, and not easy to reach or communicate with. Whenever I wouldnt hear from her for a couple of hours I would go into panic mode and contemplate calling her local emergency services or her mom to check up on her. I wasnt sleeping or taking care of myself just worrying 24/7 if she was alive.

She didnt take me not wanting to talk to her well at all. She doesnt see a therapist as shes had bad experiences in the past. She sees a psychiatrist due to extenuating circumstances with the psychiatric hospitals she was in after attempts.

We have had long conversations about both of these betrayals and breaches of trust. We’ve written letters about it, about what we want, what our needs are, and have had adult conversations about how to move forward.

Im honestly not sure what im asking. Maybe this is just interesting for you, but im extraordinarily stubborn about this. Ive expressed my desire to live together, which was reciprocated, albeit as a future prospect (6-12months).

Oh! She’s a sex worker which makes me uncomfortable and I hate that I feel that way! Thats what it is. I feel a weird knot in my stomach when she talks about it and its so disorienting because it goes against my personal beliefs (that sex work IS work and it needs to be decriminalized and treated as a legitimate job).

I think its internalized mysoginy or a problem with jealousy. I want to be comfortable with it. I dont tell her im not because its not her problem, its mine and my own little stupid brain.

Do you have any advice for me? I know this is so long ive just smoked two cigarettes sitting here typing this on a bench at one in the morning. I rly appreciate your blog as well. A fitting name because I often stumble across a post from you when I forget to be kind to myself. Thanks again and also no pressure to respond to this rambling nonsense either!!

I encourage you to be very, very careful not to get stuck in a “savior” role in this relationship. If this person is an actively suicidal, severely mentally ill addict who is refusing help while taking your attempt at establishing boundaries as a personal attack, then I can’t recommend going back to them. I get that you want to help and that you still have serious feelings, but you have to put yourself first - and there’s a good chance you can’t do that while also getting involved in an intimate relationship with this person. So be careful and think with your brain, not your heart.

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the progress you’ve made is not lost, even if you’ve relapsed. the lessons you’ve learned and your recovery journey aren’t wasted or forever gone. progress is not linear and having your ups and downs is completely normal when you are recovering. it may feel like a definite setback, but please be gentle with yourself!!!! you have already struggled and hurt so much!!! you don’t need to extend your hurt by punishing yourself for not being “healed or recovered enough.” you are worthy of your own utmost respect, especially in your worst moments.

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