Do not punish the behaviour you want to see

[olofahere]

I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?

But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,  snarkily say, “So, you’ve decided to join us”?

Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say, “Why can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)

Or any sentence containing the word “finally”. 

If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.

Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.

[bewareofmpreg]

https://comic.pixiv.net/store/variants/002d5vfe

[rebuildingjenna]

If you see a girl and you are digging her vibe/hair/clothes speak up!!!! Random compliments always make everyone’s day so much better

[caffeinated-goddess]

make drunk bathroom girl talk your everyday vibe

[elodieunderglass]

An aesthetic that first appears to be pure and basic Heterosexuals Are At It Again, but becomes increasingly uncomfortable until you finally understand:

these babygrows (onesies) with parental professions on eBay.

An entrepreneurial sort, eBay user “justtheshirt” realized that for some people, the perfect gift for, say, the baby of a beekeeper is a onesie saying “Daddy’s Little Beekeeper.” In fact, the more obscure the profession, the more excited the customer will feel about the representation! So they took a list of All the Professions, and generated a listing for each one. If someone buys a onesie, they can stamp it with whatever the listing said - and make a rather enormous profit, on a £3 onesie, having made exactly one design and used one script. Genius!

The issue is, they didn’t curate the list. Not a single human appears to have overseen this process. So they have inadvertently created some uncomfortably themed babywear, like “Daddy’s Little Maid,” “Daddy’s Little Nightwalker,” and “Daddy’s Little Courtesan.”

The database also contained a massive proportion of obscure Medieval English professions, like “fulker” and “meader” and “whipcord maker.” (The auto-generated listing enthuses something like, “the perfect gift for a whipcord maker - or just for someone who wishes they were one!”)

There are onesies for babies whose daddies are herbalists, muleteers and sacristans.

I have come full circle in my feelings about this and now I am all in favor of dressing babies in these, as long as the profession is incredibly obscure, and the daddy in question refuses to explain anything.

[blueandbluer]

Oh please tell me they had the sense not to make a “Daddy’s little proctologist…”

[elodieunderglass]

I’m afraid that the script they wrote to generate their clothing did not have any particular sense.

[nathanandersonart]

Name: Valravn, Valravne

Area of Origin: Denmark

In Danish folklore, a Valravn (“raven of the slain”) is a supernatural raven, appearing in traditional folksongs and tales. According to the tales, when a king or chieftain was killed in battle, forgotten and unburied, ravens would come and eat his remains and become Valravn. The raven that ate the king’s heart would gain human knowledge and form, capable of performing malicious acts, gaining superhuman powers and was seen as a terrible animal. In other accounts, a Valravn is described as a restless soul in search of redemption, and can only free itself from its animal limitations by consuming the heart of a child; doing so would transform the Raven into a knight. Online sources alternatively describe the Valravn as a half-raven half-wolf creature, though historical documentation of this in Danish tales and songs is either hard to come by or does not exist.

NOTE: If anyone has any examples of the wolf/raven hybrid appearing in traditional songs or tales, let me know. Otherwise, I have yet to find any verified sources of this and am interested to know if it’s a contemporary invention. 

[comics-and-things]

Phenomenal stuff. There’s an epic heroic-fantasy novel in there somewhere …

[lgbtlaughs]

Torah and togetherness - a gender-neutral bnei mitzvah

Webber explained that it was “the first” non-binary Mitzvah they have had “on the radar” it was “going to be far from the last one.”

Webber came to the decision to name the gender-neutral ceremony a “B’nei Mitzvah” because “b’nei” is a plural term which could refer to a mixed-gender group of people.

Other options had included “ban”, which combines the Hebrew for boy and girl, as well as “sera”, which means offspring or seed. [via]