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Oreo and his carrot
Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for.
Obviously, that’s not what love is all about. Loving behaviour doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behaviour nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.
Susan Forward, “Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life” (via heavyweightheart)
156 Americans tried to draw 10 famous logos from memory.
who’s the idahoan smartass who drew a target for walmart
okay, but some of these are really actually good
and some of these look more like older logos some of these companies actually had. walmart used to have signs that had a star between wal and mart (basically wal☆mart), for instance. it was really only like 6 years ago or so they changed to the current one. some older locations may still have the old sign.
one of the apple logos was clearly the guy remembering the classic logo
child handling for the childless nurse
My current job has me working with children, which is kind of a weird shock after years in environments where a “young” patient is 40 years old. Here’s my impressions so far:
Birth - 1 year: Essentially a small cute animal. Handle accordingly; gently and affectionately, but relying heavily on the caregivers and with no real expectation of cooperation.
Age 1 - 2: Hates you. Hates you so much. You can smile, you can coo, you can attempt to soothe; they hate you anyway, because you’re a stranger and you’re scary and you’re touching them. There’s no winning this so just get it over with as quickly and non-traumatically as possible.
Age 3 - 5: Nervous around medical things, but possible to soothe. Easily upset, but also easily distracted from the thing that upset them. Smartphone cartoons and “who wants a sticker?!!?!?” are key management techniques.
Age 6 - 10: Really cool, actually. I did not realize kids were this cool. Around this age they tend to be fairly outgoing, and super curious and eager to learn. Absolutely do not babytalk; instead, flatter them with how grown-up they are, teach them some Fun Gross Medical Facts, and introduce potentially frightening experiences with “hey, you want to see something really cool?”
Age 11 - 14: Extremely variable. Can be very childish or very mature, or rapidly switch from one mode to the other. At this point you can almost treat them as an adult, just… a really sensitive and unpredictable adult. Do not, under any circumstances, offer stickers. (But they might grab one out of the bin anyway.)
Age 15 - 18: Basically an adult with severely limited life experience. Treat as an adult who needs a little extra education with their care. Keep parents out of the room as much as possible, unless the kid wants them there. At this point you can go ahead and offer stickers again, because they’ll probably think it’s funny. And they’ll want one. Deep down, everyone wants a sticker.
This is also a pretty excellent guide to writing kids of various ages
It’s so funny to look back at the Coolness Window (where it’s incredibly important to be cool - Too Cool for Stickers) because I remember the Coolness Window so vividly, and am constantly surprised by how short it is in comparison to how big it feels.
“Deep down, everyone wants a sticker” is entirely relevant to pretty much any job where you deal with other people. Like, 40 year old office workers, if they give you a report on a case and you give them a sticker for it, yes, part of them will object that that’s what you do for a child, but another part of them will refuse to throw it away.
Suggestions for kids age 7ish to help understand depression, anxiety, emotions in general?
Graphic novels, fiction books, non fiction?
Steven Universe has an episode called Here Comes a Thought and it’s awesome and truly does a great job on explaining those feelings
@tinsnip It’s a movie, so not quite what you asked, but “Inside Out” did a pretty good job, for depression specifically you could especially draw attention to the fact that all of Riley’s mother’s emotions are shaped like sadness - has led to much fandom speculation that she may deal with depression.
@tinsnip http://mamapapabubba.com/2018/01/18/calm-down-kit-for-kids/
DIY kit for helping kids deal with intense emotion, includes two book recommendations. The blog has other resources for children as well (crafts, sensory play, etc.)
Hope this helps.
I used www.gozen.com with my son when he was younger. They have animated videos and a worksheets/workbook that helped him understand the nature of anxiety and how it can serve a purpose but too much can be overwhelming.
Tumblr when curated well! I made a tumblr for my son where I reblog a lot of anxiety-related positive things that I happen to see on my dash (he’s a kid who’s currently learning to navigate his anxiety issues). I thought he’d read it on his own, but he likes us to go there together and talk about every single post, which we both enjoy.
I think for an even younger kid this would work too. They already know mom is on tumblr, they most probably also already know that a lot of tumblr is not for kids ;) but mom making a tumblr space for them with cute kittens and uplifting quotes and cartoons can teach them whatever you want to post plus how to be safe online.
Suggestions for kids age 7ish to help understand depression, anxiety, emotions in general?
Graphic novels, fiction books, non fiction?
Steven Universe has an episode called Here Comes a Thought and it’s awesome and truly does a great job on explaining those feelings
@tinsnip It’s a movie, so not quite what you asked, but “Inside Out” did a pretty good job, for depression specifically you could especially draw attention to the fact that all of Riley’s mother’s emotions are shaped like sadness - has led to much fandom speculation that she may deal with depression.
@tinsnip http://mamapapabubba.com/2018/01/18/calm-down-kit-for-kids/
DIY kit for helping kids deal with intense emotion, includes two book recommendations. The blog has other resources for children as well (crafts, sensory play, etc.)
Hope this helps.
I used www.gozen.com with my son when he was younger. They have animated videos and a worksheets/workbook that helped him understand the nature of anxiety and how it can serve a purpose but too much can be overwhelming.
A Mighty Girl (www.amightygirl.com) has books about mental health for all ages.
“You need to believe in things that aren’t true. How else can they become” - Hogfather, Terry Pratchett
it’s seasonal lads
IT’S SEASONAL AGAIN LADS
But honestly, why do writers think folks want unnecessary drama involved in their otps? Especially if they are together? I don’t want inside drama. I want them to conquer exterior drama together while communicating well.
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