Reblogging with commentary, per @reflectedeve
“I think if you go back and really watch
Garak and the way he interacts with people who have more dominant
personalities, his submission is fairly obvious. The cues are subtle,
but they are there - minute changes in posture/body language, shifts in
tone of voice. It’s very interesting. I also feel like being sexually
submissive is something that is incredibly dangerous for a person in his
position, both before and after exile. When you’ve got people actively
trying to kill you, you can’t afford to let your guard down. So, I
think it would be incredibly difficult for Garak to give up control
entirely and surrender to his natural tendencies towards submission,
which I try and communicate in these stories through his continued use
of sass. That’s not him just being a bratty sub; that’s him
legitimately struggling with something he wants vs something he knows is
really dangerous and has been trained to avoid. But instincts are
instincts, and while I don’t think he could surrender to those instincts
with just anyone (nor should he - this kind of play is not to be
entered into lightly), I do think that Julian is just the right mix of
caring and commanding that he could take care of those needs for Garak
in a very safe way. I very much doubt it’s something they do all the
time, if for no other reasons than because of the intensity of it and
Garak’s difficulty in reconciling his natural instincts with his
training. And it probably took them a very long time to get to the
point where he would allow this at all - or I should say ask for it,
because I very much doubt this was Julian’s idea. But I do think that
Julian understands that this is something that Garak needs occasionally,
that “God, I’m always on high alert, I’m always in control, just let me
turn my brain off for five minutes,” kind of thing.
Meh. I
probably explained that better in the comments to Soothing the Stray. This is feeling kind of ‘stream of consciousness.’ But yeah. Watch how
Garak reacts to Sisko in In the Pale Moonlight and tell me that boy is
not a sub! LOL. It makes me wonder if that was somehow related to why
he got kicked out of the Order and exiled, why Tain thinks he betrayed
him. Did he let his guard down at the wrong time or with the wrong
person? Hmmm.”