So the way my therapist explained it to me is that, as children we had to grow up quickly in order to cope with what was happening in our lives. We developed coping methods that made us seem far more mature than our peers.

But as we grew up the coping methods we’ve developed have become less effective in a newer environment around different people. in a way, we skipped childhood and now that were “adults” a part of that lost childhood is catching up with us. All those carefully controlled emotions are catching up with us and spilling all over the place and we don’t know how to actually control them because the way we did it before doesn’t really work and probably never truly worked to begin with.

So really, we were never “mature” we were just dealing with shit, and now that there’s a chance to leave the shit behind us and start something new we have no goddamn clue how to handle it, because when so much of you is focused on dealing with the bad stuff happening you don’t really know how to act when it’s not there anymore.