eyy! im ace and trans too! i dunno if this is still too uncomfortable a question- and if so feel free to ignore -but ive read a bit that t can mess with your sex drive or whatever. ive gotten pretty comfy (for lack of a better word) with being ace and am sorta anxious over whether or not starting t will... change that? i guess? i dunno, i just feel like adding sex back into the equation would be so complicated. can starting t affect sexuality like that? or in any way?

In my experience, being on T effected my sex drive, but not my sexuality.

Prior to T, I was both as far along the ace spectrum as you could be without being repulsed by sex and had absolutely zero libido. I never thought about sex, was never sexually attracted to anyone, I didn’t even know what to do with my sex parts because I’d never considered using them for anything except menstruating. Heck, I was so oblivious I didn’t realize other people thought about sex at all beyond, like, something you had to do if you wanted a kid, until I was in college!

And honestly I was very happy with that. I’d identified as asexual since I was 14 and learned the word, and it was really comforting to know I wasn’t the only one, and it wasn’t just the product of being raised female.

And when I started T I was concerned, like you are now, that all this momentum that I’d built up around my ace identity would be for nothing once I had some other hormones in me. If it turned out that my hormones were just screwy, what basis would I have for being asexual? Was asexuality even real? Would I lose that identity?

What I found was that while T gave me a small amount of sex drive, I was still not attracted to anyone. I was still very much asexual as an orientation, just with an ability to explore a part of myself I hadn’t before.

Discussion of masturbation/experience of sex drive below the cut-

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