Power that seemed a curse can become a gift. People who were once successful only at hurting themselves can become successful in sorting out their lives. It doesn’t work to try to dominate and control a powerful person—this just leads to fights that make the patient feel like a caged animal.

The model that works best comes from judo. Redirect the patient’s destructive power into constructive power. Join with the patient and slowly find ways in which [they] can use [their] power to realize dreams, instead of creating nightmares.

This requires time, patience, and not being afraid of their forcefulness. It requires trust and hope.